tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5686997867572223504.post7805747227333152767..comments2023-10-02T06:42:39.541-04:00Comments on musings of a montreal doula: Be Who You Are, Do What You FeelAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06059951273542374898noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5686997867572223504.post-69910851881346192412011-11-30T21:21:54.537-05:002011-11-30T21:21:54.537-05:00I find the harsh condemning "extremes" t...I find the harsh condemning "extremes" that you present a little misleading. You make it seem like it's either home birth or the pejorative and nasty (the way you present it) C-Section . <br /><br />My friend who gave birth a couple of years ago had a safe, pregnancy and had a suddenly dangerous birth, (which showed now dangerous signs detected in advance by her midwife or her doctor). The cord somehow got caught around the baby as it was coming out. The midwife who does not believe in forceps did not get the baby out fast enough, nor did she have any way of knowing that the cord had caught around the baby restricting breathing. In a hospital that would have have become a very fast reason for forceps. The rest of the story is too tragic to tell. :(Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5686997867572223504.post-11784154374776274042010-04-26T17:20:12.568-04:002010-04-26T17:20:12.568-04:00ECO LISE! How wonderful to hear from you! More w...ECO LISE! How wonderful to hear from you! More women are underwhelmed at the very beginning of motherhood than one would think. It could be the expectations of feeling all orgasmic-y and hormonally pumped make us feel inadequate somehow if it isn't like that. You had different birth experiences, and you still needed the same thing...a little space to process. Sometimes women really need some space to come back to themselves after such an intense journey, and it has to be known that that's okay. <br />Love to your wonderful family!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06059951273542374898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5686997867572223504.post-55510648977696921822010-04-26T13:10:59.321-04:002010-04-26T13:10:59.321-04:00Wow Lesley! You write beautifully and I am so happ...Wow Lesley! You write beautifully and I am so happy to be able to keep connected with you in this way. This post is wonderful, my initiation into your blog. I can relate, as you know since right after both births I felt like I was not the euphoric joyous mother that I’d read about and seen in films. I think after the first birth I was a bit traumatized (length, pain, intensity of labour, this new motherhood life, among the hormones and other things) and with Sasha I thought it would be different since I was more prepared and less fatigued. Regardless of what I then considered an under reaction, I am in love with them both now and they couldn’t make me happier. Expectations in birthing and parenting and in anything really are usually never helpful, so I guess moms have to be careful not to get wrapped into that when preparing for birth. We never know how we will experience something. One more reason to aspire to just be in the present as much as we can. <br /><br />I also often observe how judging other people can be of parents, and mothers can be especially critical of their peers. I have often felt my own indignation bubbling up, when seeing a mom doing something I wouldn’t necessarily do, but I guess the most important thing is to be aware of the way we are thinking and in being aware we can change our thinking. Since every mother and baby is different and each mama is doing what she feels is best for herself and her baby. For some reason it seems that when a mom sees you doing something different from what they are doing they almost take it as a critic of what they are doing. But it seems like we can be a lot happier and become closer to others and create more of a community when we start being more authentic and accepting of our differences and let go of the ego boost that I guess judging must bring. I love the last paragraph, so eloquently describing what I’ve often thought about! Anyway I just seem to ramble on and on, but thanks so much for this awesome blog, you are really an inspiration!Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04025826580620613487noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5686997867572223504.post-16912075075586275112010-04-19T15:56:43.635-04:002010-04-19T15:56:43.635-04:00Way to go, Charity! That's a lot of dedicatio...Way to go, Charity! That's a lot of dedication. I hope you're really proud of what a great Mom you are.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06059951273542374898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5686997867572223504.post-71864175771940400742010-04-19T11:56:41.926-04:002010-04-19T11:56:41.926-04:00wonderful, as usual. Makes me feel better about al...wonderful, as usual. Makes me feel better about all my natural short comings.. even as a birth pro, we still are vulnerable to feeling like we did it wrong..and they are forever scarred...all I know is that pumping instead of breastfeeding managed to get my girl breast milk for 5 months. if it wasn't for that, it would have been over sooner than that.Charity Parrotthttp://maternalinstinctdoulaservice.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5686997867572223504.post-67456061935433753982010-04-19T01:01:04.410-04:002010-04-19T01:01:04.410-04:00Quote away, darlin'.Quote away, darlin'.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06059951273542374898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5686997867572223504.post-87459525636120074872010-04-19T00:14:00.747-04:002010-04-19T00:14:00.747-04:00Wonderful. There are indeed many paths to enlighte...Wonderful. There are indeed many paths to enlightenment. I hope you don't mind me quoting you?Teresahttp://facebook.com/mamamoonbirthnoreply@blogger.com