tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5686997867572223504.post7159896443226791586..comments2023-10-02T06:42:39.541-04:00Comments on musings of a montreal doula: HeroesAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06059951273542374898noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5686997867572223504.post-47052089535110445652010-02-06T21:18:41.996-05:002010-02-06T21:18:41.996-05:00I love how "they" automatically assume t...I love how "they" automatically assume that "we" have something to prove..... really? to whom? our husbands/partners? the doctor? hmmmmmmm how about we do it for our babies? anyone think of that? I mean hey! Listen I'm not a masochist - if there was drug out there that would make transition a bit more bearable, without deadening the sensations entirely so that I loose touch with my body's signals, and with no effect on my baby or my well being.... hell yea, I'd probably take advantage of it! But there isn't. Therefore I will labour au natural...because my baby deserves it.Danielle Arnold-McKennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00606657569365450105noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5686997867572223504.post-7178418375362392832010-02-04T22:23:11.891-05:002010-02-04T22:23:11.891-05:00When a woman strongly desiring unmedicated REALLY ...When a woman strongly desiring unmedicated REALLY needs pain relief, the level of pain tends to override ideals. No level of support will stop her from ringing that call bell once the pain becomes truly unmanageable for whatever reason. She will eventually come to the decision of what she needs on her own. We can trust that. So if she's not asking for drugs, it means she has resources. it's not our job to assume her needs. And when she does demand relief, we support her wholeheartedly in that decision, embracing it as an empowering, healing choice, holding the space for it to provide healing to a challenging labour. Thanks for your comments!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06059951273542374898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5686997867572223504.post-54088272244197574902010-02-04T22:04:27.753-05:002010-02-04T22:04:27.753-05:00This rings so true to me, I have heard so many peo...This rings so true to me, I have heard so many people associate "drug-free birth" with trying to "prove" something, and this makes me so sad. What a great post, thanks for your thoughts!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14205376321553890459noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5686997867572223504.post-7825500606707172222010-02-03T22:00:02.739-05:002010-02-03T22:00:02.739-05:00So sorry you had such a bad experience ;(. That ...So sorry you had such a bad experience ;(. That breaks my heart. I'm so glad you had support through what sounds like a brutal induction. I know it can seem like they want you to fail. I think it's more they just have certain expectations, and have a sales pitch. I have also seen spectacular compassion and patience at the Vic. It's hard not to be able to control your own birthing environment,and have to rely on the luck of the draw.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06059951273542374898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5686997867572223504.post-32625122195124292032010-02-03T20:49:34.937-05:002010-02-03T20:49:34.937-05:00Very tue. That very phrase was said to me like a d...Very tue. That very phrase was said to me like a dozen times at the Vic. I felt the whole labour was nurses and doctors waiting for me to fail in my wish for a natural birth. When I finally got an epidural after a full day of pitocin, I felt humiliated as if this 'failure' gave the staff who didn't believe in me a kick of joy. I truly hated my hospital experience-thank goodness for my doula who kept me going for so long on no food or sleep!Today is Ranthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08263887078477565559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5686997867572223504.post-51299608514579141272010-02-03T19:56:01.184-05:002010-02-03T19:56:01.184-05:00You've hit that one right on the nail...thank ...You've hit that one right on the nail...thank you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com