tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5686997867572223504.post4697001832216257286..comments2023-10-02T06:42:39.541-04:00Comments on musings of a montreal doula: The Pride of Birthing AccomplishmentsAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06059951273542374898noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5686997867572223504.post-22990653322633690472013-03-15T10:06:04.530-04:002013-03-15T10:06:04.530-04:00Hi,
I have a quick question about your blog, woul...Hi,<br /><br />I have a quick question about your blog, would you mind emailing me when you get a chance?<br /><br />Thanks,<br /><br />Cameron<br /><br />cameronvsj(at)gmail.comCameron VSJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16821349301593446566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5686997867572223504.post-42576141548245438612013-02-04T23:22:51.611-05:002013-02-04T23:22:51.611-05:00Sweet Lea,
My heart breaks for the pain you have h...Sweet Lea,<br />My heart breaks for the pain you have had regardimg your birth. You were very hurt by an uncaring doctor . If, given your.challenging situation, you were treated with more kindness and compassion, you may have felt powerful. If a better space for your grief had been held, you would have felt free and supported to cry over the loss of your dream birth. I know you never once needed to be reminded to be grateful for a healthy baby. Being sad about your birth in no way denotes a lack of gratitude. <br />At MotherWit we are in the process of forming a support group for women who experience a sense of loss of power around their births. Healing can.absolutely happen. I am hoping in the near future you will find the healing and be able to claim the power you did have and see yourself as the hero you were. It is easy enough to have a normal birth. the mothers who dive into parenthood while dealing with all the challenges they did are the real heroes.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06059951273542374898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5686997867572223504.post-20077557124347213592013-02-04T22:11:46.317-05:002013-02-04T22:11:46.317-05:00Lesley,
I've never met you, but have heard mu...Lesley, <br />I've never met you, but have heard much about you from friends who have had the wonderful experience of having you as their birth doula. <br />Reading your words, I feel a great deal of admiration for you, and I have to say also, I'm very jealous. Firstly, I'm very happy to hear that you've kicked cancer to the curb. I'm sure your strength and positivity are in large part responsible for that. Amazing.<br />My jealously, well these days it doesn't take much for me to feel envy when I hear birth stories of women who look back on their birthing experiences triumphantly. 7 months ago, I had a birth experience which has left me with such a sense of defeat. I thought I had prepared as much as I could; I hired a doula, read all I could to prepare, and was keeping an optimistic and positive attitude for the birth of my first baby, all the while reminding myself that births don't always go as we hope and dream, and I thought I would be okay with it if things didn't turn out how I wanted. <br />Toward the end of my pregnancy and my blood pressure slowly creeping up, I felt pushed in to an induction I did not want, a fully medicated labour that was slow and painful, an epidural I wanted to avoid, and ultimately felt bullied into a c-section. It had never even occurred to me that things could go "this badly." After too many hour in labour, my hopes were lifted and was told I'd deliver with an hour or two. Our doula had to go and we were left to do the rest on our own. A shift change at the hospital and a new OB arrived (the 3rd one we'd seen in 3 days), and he declares to the nurse that I'll need a c-section. He didn't look at me or explain why. As my tears started, he yelled at me saying that it was a c-section, or I could "do whatever I wanted" and he left my room. Things went from bad to worse. I'd never felt so powerless in my life. I still question myself about having gone along with the induction.. What if I was stronger, less scared, had listened to my instincts. Difficulties breastfeeding afterwards, low milk supply, domperidone, pumping, baby losing weight, formula supplements. All of what I didn't want or expect. We didn't see our doula for quite a few days afterwards, maybe even a week or so, I can't remember. I do remember that no one around me could understand why I was so upset. My husband got it a little bit, I guess, but I didn't want to ruin his happiness with my sadness, so I pretend. I still can't hear peoples' birth stories without getting a pit of sadness in my stomach and wonder if that will ever go away.<br />Since the birth of my beautiful son, until I read your words today, I hadn't heard anyone say that the birth IS important, I've only kept hearing how I shouldn't be thinking how he got here, but just that he IS here and healthy. Of course I am grateful for that, obviously. But I am still hurt by the birth, more than I can express. <br />Even though we've never met, I'm very thankful to you for your words. I needed to hear them. Badly. Leahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00163867124282926678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5686997867572223504.post-51595922861547144812013-02-01T15:34:18.886-05:002013-02-01T15:34:18.886-05:00Lmfao Lesley. You have a way with words and are ...Lmfao Lesley. You have a way with words and are so very inspiring!!!Samhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16302543664984127353noreply@blogger.com